healing your shame- stop emotional reactivity

by: Kim Baccigaluppi

Building a relationship with your inner child has profound benefits. This may be the most important relationship you initiate and maintain.  Ignoring the presence of emotional needs of the inner child can be detrimental to your life.  

Without actively healing the emotional wounds of the inner child:

You may notice the following repercussions from not pursuing or re-parenting your inner child:

• Overreacting
• Tantrums
• Self-Centeredness
• Impulsivity
• Irrational 
• Illogical

One's relationship with their inner child can either negatively or positively impact one's decision-making, and interpersonal relationships such as friendships, love relationships, and occupation.

As your inner child receives unconditional love from your adult/parent-self, he/she (inner child) bypasses or 'intercepts' acting out.  By meeting the inner child's needs, he/she feels loved and the internalized shame begins to heal.  This profound relationship has the ability to transform negative self-beliefs to positive.  

Your ‘inside’ and ‘outside world’ will progressively reflect these changes. As you raise your vibrational energy, you will notice feeling lighter, less anxious, increased positive thinking, mood enhancement, and more.   Additionally, you will viscerally have the sensation of filling yourself up from the inside out, instead of, for example, impulsively filling up the emotional “hole” with an addiction or having to 'emotionally shut down' as a form of emotional preservation. 

The results of the work will vary from person to person.  For example, if you are someone who suffers from loneliness, you may notice it subsiding.  If you are someone who is perpetually anxious, attending to your inner child’s fears will reduce your level of anxiety. The more time you spend being emotionally available for your inner child, the less emotionally reactive you will be toward yourself, others and the conditions of life's trying times.